Tuesday, May 12, 2009

when you have a busy boyfriend...

Moving from a student to a 9-to-5 based working adult, there are things that one needs to adjust and adapt. One major change you will soon notice is that you are going to lose a valuable thing that you never cherish as a student - time. Thus you will have less time to spend with your family, friends and of course, the most important person in your life.

To all the girls out there, if you have (or yet to have) a boyfriend who is as busy as a lazy giant pig, these guidelines are something you may want to refer. I should not say I'm very good at coping with this, but at least I have some experience.

Guide 1 : Have a life of your own
Have your own circle of friends, organize your own activities, go out and have fun! You should know that your world does not revolve around him. You are an independent individual and your job is not to stay home and wait for him to come, to call, to online. It's also important to let him know that you can still survive happily without him.

Guide 2 : Make him feel guilty
When you are a happy young lady it's time to make him feel guilty for dedicating all his time to work. Tell him once in a while (not too often) that he is not spending enough quality time with you but at the same time be understanding and caring. For example, say that "I know you're very busy at work but would you please spare 2 minutes in your day to call me and let me know that you're okay?". This, ladies, will make him melt. Or when he is less busy and actually reply your sms quickly, say this "Dear how come you're so free today? And you actually do reply my messages. I'm so happy I haven't have this kind of luxury for a very long time." Another suggestion is, always provide him something to eat when he comes back from work. When you control his stomach, you control him.
Guide 3 : Drop hints
When he is totally occupied with nourishing his own career and you can't take it any longer, drop hints to him that you need a time-out. For instance, you can forward him emails of air tickets promotion. I find this obvious and clear-cut, as all of you know, boys are insensitive and ignorant thus they can't get vague hints.

Guide 4 : Send him seductive/naughty sms
A friend once suggested to me that I do this. I have never try before, mind you. I repeat, I have NEVER try. Well the key is to send him messages like... I wouldn't want to give examples here but I bet you know what I mean. I heard it's very effective and its power is strong enough to make your boyfriend end up at your doorstep on a weekday night.

Guide 5 : Do not nag
This is a taboo. Guys hate it when you nag. They tend to avoid you and thus spending less time with you. Give him some room. He will come to you when he's ready.

Just remember, even if he spend less time with you, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore. He may be too busy at work, or he may be just needing some space to breathe. Hope that the above guidelines will somehow help you get through this. Good luck!

10 comments:

confessions of a medical student said...

shinLoo, nowadays giving tips to others liao... first work, then relationships... hehe... i liked reading them... and i thought the air asia commercial - u used to drop hints is really funny.... hehe.... makes me wanna go on vacation too! ZERO fare leh...

thE gEOgrAphicAlly blind said...

siGh... it didn't work for me though... he didn't see that email...

auDrey said...

I love the way you're analyzing each and every move... haha... enjoying reading ur blog. I hope zi lin reads them too ;)

kew said...

good tips seriously. take it easy and be happy always!

what will be next tips? hehe....pre-marry?

thE gEOgrAphicAlly blind said...

audrey... yes zilin reads it...

Kiwi-Bird said...

Wow shinloo, u turn into a love consultant!! Have faith =)

thE gEOgrAphicAlly blind said...

not love consultant so kua cheong la... not so geli man... just sharing some thoughts la...

Anonymous said...

Interesting.
Yes, our other half should spend quality time with us as often as possible. But do understand that this may be the turning point of your boyfried's career. He has been busying himself lately to focus on work. It is also a crucial stage in his life. He needs to build a tabil career of his own for future support. If he spends less time with u becuz of work, it doesnt mean that he doesnt care about you. Meanwhile, make urself busy at work too. Focus on ur career. It is okay to meet up only during weekends or having lunch together once or twice a week.

However, if he pretends to ne nsy or gives lame excuses not to meet u, then that's another story.

So dont fret. Be independent! Guys love a hint of independence in women.

-Mr Anonymous-

Anonymous said...

*Typo:..if he pretends to be busy..

thE gEOgrAphicAlly blind said...

Mr. Anonymous, yeah, sure... thanks for your advice... =)